Friday Ketchup: Where’s the Relish?

by ToriDeaux on May 29, 2009

Remember a week or so ago when I told you about my new bloggy crush, Havi Brooks?   You all helped me take her teleclass webinar thingy on non-strategic marketing strategy, and it was really cool. Thanks!

Today, I’ve decided to shamelessly steal-borrow-adapt one of Havi’s other ideas – a weekly post that she calls  her Friday Chicken/Checkin.  It’s essentially a place and time where she rambles waxes eloquently Friday Ketchup: Brought to you by a ketchup image from loungefrog on Stock.Xchngeabout her week – the good, the bad, the painful, the beautiful.   But because I’m me, and I have to be different  even from the different, I’ve opted for a condiment cliche instead of a poultry pun.  There’s a reason for my changing it up, too… it’s a reminder to me to catch-up on all of the things I should have told you about this week, and didn’t.

So here goes, your very first edition of Friday Ketchup!

First up? Some linkage for you:

1.The Sharp Brains Guide to Brain Fitness
imageAlvaro Fernandez and Dr. Elkhonon Goldberg of SharpBrains have released a book wittily titled ” The SharpBrains Guide to Brain Fitness”. (Who’d have thunk it? ;) )

And while I haven’t read it yet,  based on my trust in SharpBrains, I feel totally comfortable recommending it sight unseen.  That’s a first for me, and says a lot about my high opinion of SharpBrains as a whole. So check it out.

2. This Old Brain.Netimage
I really enjoyed this  two-parter from Mike Kirkeberg over at  ThisOldBrain.Net  (Plus, he has a totally amusing header graphic)


3. BrainTraining 1o1: Brain Games
And have I ever directly pointed you towards the games hosted by my friend Erin Matlock, of BrainTraining1o1?

Check out her mind boggling collection of mind boggling brain teasers, twisters, puzzles and games here:  Brain Training 101: Online Brain Games

And In The Category Of Things I Really Should Have Told You About Ages Ago?

4.The 7 Keys to Brain Fitness Blog
(alternately titled Vibrant & Healthy Living)

As if writing for Brain Camp and this blog weren’t enough, I had to go and start another writing project! It’s  a site much more tightly focused on brain fitness, with a side helping of successful aging.

The whole thing is sponsored by Dakim, a company that produces a sort of Rolls Royce of brain training products that runs on its own hardware with a touch screen and about a gazillion games, I’m told!  I haven’t had time to even think about reviewing Dakim’s product, but Erin should be giving it the once over soon, and I’m waiting eagerly to see her take on it.  The sample games on their website are really fun, though sadly the pricing puts it way out of my reach. I can definitely see it having a solid place in a brain gym setup.

The blog is sort of a team effort between me and their PR team, and I’m admittedly having a lot of trouble finding my balance over there.  Still,  I have come up with a few posts I’m particularly proud of, like this one:  Living With Alzheimer’s: A Spark of Self & Humanity I’m hoping to do a MindTweaks interview with Annie from that post… so make sure and check it out, and let me know what you think.

And My Head-Hanging Shame:

Ok, here’s the biggie.  I may have written the worst post ever in the history of MindTweaks.  Seriously. It’s dreadful, and no, you wont change my mind.

I’m referring, of course, to that rambling mess the other day about spirit animals and illusion.

Usually, when I think I’ve written a horrible post, I come back a day or so later, and realize it’s not so bad.  This time? It really is pretty dreadful.   Too many ideas, too much info, too much rambling, and overall, it’s horribly forced. Blah.  It’s so bad that I might take it down entirely, re-write it from scratch, or head for confessional and hope for some sort of penance  And no, I’m not going to link to the post…  It’s that bad.

Why did I produce such a monstrosity?

Simple – I’m over extended with my writing.  I love writing, I really do.   But I’m used to doing it on my own time, on my own schedule, and according to my whims.   Brain Camp is really rewarding, but the content is challenging to produce.  Add the Dakim site into the mix, and I’m just burnt out.  Too muchRelish This.   Image by constancia on Stock.Xchng writing on too many similar subjects, and my poor brain is starting to blow fuses, I’m afraid.

Something has to give, and right now, it seems to be my writing ability. Bummer.

Which is why I’m asking myself…
“Where’s the relish?”

Where’s that extra bit of refreshing enjoyment gotten off to?  I’ve already checked behind the baked beans and potato chips, and it’s seemingly no where to be found…

MindTweak: “I was never unusually squeamish; I could sometimes eat a fried rat with a good relish, if it was necessary”Henry David Thoreau

{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Erin Matlock 05.29.09 at 5:37 pm

Don’t be so hard on yourself. That’s an order, my friend! And remember – Even on your worst day you are FAR ahead of the crowd. I hope the Dakim folk realize how LUCKY they are to have someone like you blogging for them.

You are incredibly kind to mention Brain Training 101…(I saw some of your readers checking out the place, and I figured something was up.) :-)

Have a fantastic and restful weekend!


2 mike kirkeberg 05.29.09 at 10:50 pm

Hi Tori,
Two things –
First thanks for the plug; I appreciate feedback anytime.
Second, it’s easy to overextend, even when doing something you really enjoy. Maybe we enter a sort of flatland and it gets harder to see the hills and valleys of creativity. One day, you get up excited about getting on the computer and whipping out copy, and the next day the only thought visible is, “Oh no, I have to come up with ANOTHER new idea.”
Oh, wait, that’s me thinking that. Or is it? I hope I’m not alone in this!

3 Tori Deaux 05.30.09 at 12:06 am

@ErinMa’am,YES, Ma’am!

And really, I wasn’t trying to be hard on myself, but more airing out my own dissatisfaction, instead of tucking it away and hoping it would just fade into the shadows (it never does, you know) Thanks as always for the compliments; we all have our insecure moments, you know? And you’re welcome for whatever traffic I sent your way! (I do have clicky readers, don’t I?)

@Mike You are, of course, quite welcome for the plug. I really did like those two articles; it’s been a while since I went on an anti-self-help movement rant, and positive thinking is one of my favorite targets, so i took some vicarious pleasure in it too : )

As for the roller coaster of creativity – I really do think that to an extent, its part of the biochemistry involved. Creativity can be quite a rush, it wouldn’t surprise me one bit if there’s a bit of withdrawal afterwards. Then, of course, there’s the harsh reality that I dont do the things I KNOW I need to do in order to keep my brain stable. *cough sputter*

And of course you’re not alone in sometimes dreading the keyboard : ) For me, it’s less about a new idea (i get tons of those) than finding the focus and direction that makes the post make sense. That’s tough, and I’ve found its not something I can always do on demand. Go figure.

I’ll get through this rough patch though… thanks for your support, both of you : )

4 whizmo 06.01.09 at 10:24 am

no problemo. I signed up for a writing course and do you THINK I can write???? of course not. I’ve even missed journalling, which I never do!
Something about commitment and creativity…hmmm worth looking in to

5 Tori Deaux 06.01.09 at 10:32 am

@whizmo yipes! I think you’re onto something there, about commitment and creativity. Some creativity gurus encourage committing as a creativity boost. But for me, unless it’s a “free write” sort of format, commitments seem to kill my creativity and create blocks more often than not. I think it has to do with a shift in my brain. I need that sense of freedom, and commitment creates a sense of anxiety of sorts…. ponder, ponder….

6 whizmo 06.01.09 at 6:25 pm

Except I once had someone tell me there is freedom in commitment. If you are so busy “sticking your foot in the door to keep it open” a.k.a. keeping your options open … well where’s the freedom in that. I’m still trying to get my mind around that.
So really it must be a perception we have about commitments. A feeling of being trapped?

7 Karagush 06.02.09 at 6:34 pm

hey it was bad but not that bad. we all get worn down and commit atrocities. I am a prime suspect. You had to LEARN how to read my posts! remember?
so drop me a line and say hey. I’ve been thinking of you.


8 Tori Deaux 06.11.09 at 3:37 pm

@Whizmo I’ve been thinking about your comment, and for me, it’s not a feeling of being trapped (though I do love that freedom of blank potential business you mentioned!)

I think that when I start trying to produce content because I “need to” – it changes the pathways my thoughts follow. I shift into “productive” mode rather than “creative” mode. And there’s apparently no amount of ketchup or relish in the world that can fix THAT ;)

@Kara And where have YOU been young lady? Oh, wait. I”m the one that’s been AWOL searching for condiments ; ) (For those of you wondering, Kara is a brilliant and dear friend of mine who I keep meaning to do an interview with because she’s got some amazing brain-recovering experiences to share. I will find the time for it. I will. )