Helper Mice Wanted: A Very Personal Ad (part 2)

Here you go:
The Actual AD, as promised in part 1.
You didn’t think I was going to get around to actually writing this, did you?

Oh Ye of Little Faith!

Ahem.
As I was saying…

Brain-Savvy Blogger Seeks Helper Mice !!

Once Upon A Time…. I had a lot of Helper Mice. They scurried around in both my inner and outer worlds, keeping me sane, helping me with projects, finding real world helpers, and generally offering support, reassurance, and nuggets of wisdom. They lived in both my internal and external worlds — as both psychological projections and real world people, each one with it’s particular role in my life, together forming a supportive community web that kept me focused and connected, sane and productive.

I want that back, please.

I want to believe in and welcome those mental images that were so helpful, again. I want them to be consistent, and meaningful. And I want the sense of community and connection that has it’s own Helper Mouse vibe.

I want my mice back! Please come home. I miss you.

Here’s how it could work: You Internal-Projection-Type Mice could appear to me in dreams. You’re good at that, the dream-thing. And maybe I could actually remember the dreams, and notice the mice in them? That could definitely happen.

You Helper Mice could also show up in synchronicities, little things that make me sit up and pay attention when something could be helpful. I might be able to do a meditation or even a vision-journey-thing to find you, or let you find me, or however else it’s done these days. I’m afraid I’m a bit out of touch with the newest Helper Mouse technology… do you use Twitter, perhaps?

The Right Helper Mice are welcome to take more tangible forms, to in the shape of human helpers, partners, project managers, assistants, or whatever role they’re comfortable in that might help me. How could that happen?

• You might see this ad, and feel drawn to it.
• I might write a more specific personal ad seeking you, in the future.
• I might contact a previous “Mouse” and see if they’d be interested in re-starting a relationship.
• I might suddenly recognize appropriate mousey-roles for other people who are already in my life.

Here’s what I know won’t work:
(and what I will try my damnedest not to do)

• Trying to force people into Helper Mice roles they aren’t suited for.
• Trying to force the internal-type-mouse into an artificial existence, through willpower, or ritual, or sheer needy-stubbornness.
• Trying to work with ill-suited giant, aggressive, bumbling and toothy mice that just wind up making things worse
• Letting people force their ideas of what is helpful on me, but really isn’t, at all.
• Allowing myself to be convinced that I don’t need help or that because I can do something myself, I SHOULD do it myself..

I want to remember these wont-works, because they’ve helped get me into this mess, and they’ve helped keep me stuck in the mess.

And here’s my commitment:

Dear Helper Mice,
If you should find your way back into my life, in any role or capacity you see fit, I will do my best to create a supportive and pleasant space for you.

I will work at building a relationship, at listening and communicating, and at the give and take that is involved in any relationship.

I’ll do my best to make it a good and beneficial connection for all involved, to my my own needs and expectations clear.

I’ll do my damnedest to make it profitable for all of us.

And while I can’t promise to believe in you 100% right off the bat, I can promise to give our relationship and projects more than a fighting chance to succeed.

How’s that for starters? I’d like to offer all the cheese you can eat, but I’m afraid that might be a bit out of the budget. It’s certainly negotiable, though!

So what do you say, Helper Mice?

If you’re the right mice for me, please come home! I miss you!

This concludes today’s Very Personal Ad. And yes, I know it’s wacky. It’s meant to be. If you’d like to reflect on the concept of personal ads or helper mice, ask a question about something I mentioned off-handedly in the process of writing, be a bit wacky or even post your own personal add, go for it! Just do try and resist any urges to tell me how I could ask better, do better, be less crazy, etc. In other words, no raining on my mousey parade!